Therapy should help — but when a child is living under coercive control, therapy can sometimes do harm if the clinician doesn’t understand the dynamics at play. Many therapists are excellent. Many are not trained in coercive control. When a therapist unintentionally validates the abuser’s narrative, it increases confusion and injury for the child — and for you. Children need clear teaching about boundaries, agency, and healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. Sometimes that means pausing therapy unt